From Cafeteria Catholic to Anna Quindlen Catholic
Are you changing pews?
April 23, 2012 about her book, Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake
Of the many topics discussed during the interview:
Leaving The Catholic Church
“…In Lots of Candles, Quindlen frankly describes …. her reasoning for recently leaving the Catholic Church:
“The pedophilia scandals, the church’s reaction to them, and their constant obsession with gynecology — taken together at a certain point, it was probably two or three years ago, I said, ‘Enough,’ ” she says. “Every time I sit in the pew I ratify this behavior, and I’m not going to ratify it anymore.”
Quindlen says she realizes that she doesn’t need a service or Mass to get what she needs out of her faith.
“I think not going anymore made me realize how much of the good had been imprinted deep inside me, and how much of the rest I didn’t need,” she says. “I don’t have to listen to the Gospel on Sunday to know the stories of the New Testament. They inform so much of what I write that they’re practically like a news scrim that goes through my brain 24/7. And I don’t have to listen to a sermon to know what to think or feel about them. It’s almost as if I absorbed completely what mattered most to me, and the rest could go.”
But Quindlen says she still relies on her faith.
“I still walk around some mornings and look at the world and think, ‘Oh my God. This is so fantastic, and there’s so many opportunities to do good and to be happy,’ ” she says. “And I think that comes from some deep-faith place that started in religion and now transcends it.”
And I say:
The Old Boys Network in Rome
The Red Hat Society in Rome doesn’t care about me,
my mother, sisters, daughters, girl cousins or,
really, any of the Catholic Women in America.
We are not invited…included…involved.
We are the legions of women who volunteer, show up, answer the phones, pick up the clutter, administer to the sick, clean and decorate their parish churches, who distribute ashes and communion, who organize, support, give to …
who never have been, never will be – are never invited to the party.
The Old Boys Can Have Their Roman Holiday
Legions of Ladies are Leaving
At first we were Cafeteria Catholics... we slid our trays around Church teachings, the past Pope’s inane or egregious edicts… we picked – we selected – we decided what facets of the Church teachings and proclamations from Rome to ignore.
Year after year, week after week, we bowed our heads and now open our eyes –
and loudly acknowledge, we are even more dis-heartened and disillusioned.
Do we turn away and become Anna Quindlen Catholics?
Many of us were Baptized, had our First Communions, were Confirmed and married in the same parish church.
We attended Catholic school and, at home, peppered our sentences with, “Yeah, but, Sister said…”
In college, we dramatically “Fell away from the Church” code for: We didn’t go to Sunday Mass, we skipped confession, took the Pill, and paid no heed to the old guys in dresses in Rome.
With marriage and kids, some of us circled around, looking again at the Church seeking out a smarter, hipper parish. A Herculean task.
Some of us paid the big bucks and sent our kids to Catholic school and eventually, watched them ‘fall away.’
Guilty of highly deliberate mythmaking
Floods of news articles about Catholic priests and the pedophile scandal tainted the Church. Could it be true? Daily stories about The Papal Attack on Women Religious sicken and dis-hearten us.
Ratzinger’s good friend, Levada in Portland and Mahoney of Los Angeles, knowingly turned a blind eye. Law in Boston, an egregious offender, hid behind his cassock – in full denial- while the list of the abused burgeoned. Cardninal Sins.
Rome looked the other way.
Websites with the names, dates, and parishes of the pedophiles multiplied.
Again, Rome looked away, looked around, would not admit fault in the ranks… although tens of thousands enraged Catholics protested.
“Every time I sit in the pew I ratify this behavior, and I’m not going to ratify it anymore.”
Will we see Pink Smoke over the Vatican?